Tutoring an Infant to Grow into an 'British Gentleman' – Is It Worth the Investment?

Child education concept
The organization responsible for the advertisement states that what seems like "extravagance or peculiarity" is actually "purposeful commitment in initial instruction".

"Parents based in North London wants to find an remarkable and skilled educator to guide their youngest child on his first steps to becoming an British gentleman."

When reading this listing, you might naturally miss the term "first-steps" as mere an expression.

However, it may be the crucial aspect of this distinctive position posting, as it attempts to find a teacher for a one-year-old.

Numerous of responses have already been sent in since the anonymous family posted their request for the £180,000 per year tutor, who needs to be "an exceptional individual".

Over the last few weeks, the post has attracted attention in the media, with numerous questioning why?

Progressive Approach

The CEO, chief executive of Tutors International, which is supporting the family in their quest, said that in spite of initial skepticism, he considered the idea "far sighted", and "progressive".

When he consulted the family, he noted they recognized the atypical character of their demand, and how young their son is.

But, they stated that they "were unwilling to delay any longer" to get a tutor, as they had held off until their elder sibling was five, and by that age "cultural conditioning had already set in".

But what does the family refer to by "cultural predisposition"?

It's "everything", Adam replied. "The manner you eat, the manner you speak".

He said the firstborn had picked up "very nuanced, body language" from the family, and had taken on their cultural ways. The family told him they wished to avoid this pattern to happen again with their younger child.

The intention: To hire a English tutor, who needs to speak with RP, to guide the baby right from the beginning.

Tutoring discussion
Tutors International say the advert has sparked a broader debate about how households regard learning, privilege and the role of family background in learning.

Osmotic Learning

"A lot of the education at the start here is kind of osmotic," explained the expert.

It's via this osmosis that the family are expecting the child will acquire the British traits they aim to cultivate.

He said the tutor needed to be someone who attended "the appropriate educational institutions – comparable categories of schools as the family hope to send their son to".

"The instructor simply needs to be the appropriate candidate, they'll be carrying out things they don't even know they're doing, simply by nature," he said.

Money No Object

The family explained to Adam the successful candidate should preferably also have familiarity of or enthusiasm in riding, alpine skiing, the arts and instrumental training so as to inspire the child in a wide range of hobbies.

Furthermore though, he said the family wanted the tutor to register the child on a range of classes so the child would be "horseback riding and learning an instrument by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's perspective, guiding their son develop into a "UK sophisticate" will result in achievement and open doors.

"Taking into account the advantages and disadvantages of that, because it's certainly a status symbol," he notes.

However, despite all this tutelage in "UK identity", could the child pick up alleged cultural bias from the international family he is raised by regardless?

"Certainly", said the CEO. "They know this could fail, but they've just taken the view of, 'we should try and we'll proceed as early as we can', because the expense of it is irrelevant," he stated.

Impractical

Several in the tutoring industry who have similar reservations.

Peter Cui, head and founder of Blue Education, who provides personal educators, commented that "the journey of adopting dual cultures, or actually, discovering oneself, is something that must be lived into, not engineered."

Peter wrote that he had emigrated from China to the UK at the age of seven, and had been raised understanding and living both cultures. He continued to learn at Cambridge University.

Peter Cui portrait
Peter Cui was the first individual born in mainland China to be chosen to the post of Treasurer of the Cambridge Union.

"The concept that an individual can function as a living vessel of UK identity, someone who can possibly transplant the qualities of a English gentleman to a 12-month-old child, strikes me as optimistic and impractical," he commented.

"From my perspective, engaging a typically UK tutor from babyhood will not automatically achieve the result they hope for.

"I did not have that kind of mentor, and however I have been privileged enough to experience numerous of the opportunities they hope for their son."

He continued: "The truth is, self-identity cannot be forced from the outside influences; it must be embraced, and it must be internally driven."

Buying Britishness

Naturally, Britishness is something Adam thinks can be taught – and commercialized.

"I believe the reality that the world holds us in this regard is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

Sarah Moran
Sarah Moran

International business strategist with 20+ years experience in cross-cultural markets.